Tuesday, May 27, 2008

I Get More Pissed The More I Think About It

I ran the Wildwood 20K Trail Race Sunday morning. Had a great time that was marred by one pretty inappropriate event. A stranger running the race felt/caressed my ass as he passed me. At first I thought it might have been incidental contact or an accident as the trail was pretty muddy , slick and narrow. It was one of those "Did that really just happen?" moments and by the time my brain caught up, he was long gone. But the woman who I ended up running with for the rest of the way caught up with me shortly after the groping incident and told me that it didn't look like an accident to her. Her words were "It looked like he was trying to feel you up."

I email the race organizers yesterday with a description of the incident and a physical description of the man and here was their response:

"We're so sorry to hear what happened to you yesterday. We regret that we don't know who the runner is. So sorry."

That was it. I'm pretty disappointed. And very angry.


My friend Angie is pretty much the smartest person I know (check out her blog: www.insideowl.com). I few weeks ago she wrote a disturbing post about being sexually harassed by a telemarketer and the feeling of vulnerability, frustration and violation that occurred post-incident. I hear ya, sista. I was basically, and I loathe using this phrase for some reason, sexually assaulted during an organized race, with a witness and a pretty accurate description of the jackass. And, unless I decide to throw down the lawyer card on these folks, nothing will be done about it.

I am pretty careful about what I do and where I do it. No headphones or running alone at night, telling someone my route and ETA if I want to ride alone, etc etc. Since I have started training consistently, this is the first incident where I've felt threatened not because I was a cyclist, but because I am a woman. And it pretty much sucks.

Be careful out there, ladies.


(0v0) said...


The weirdest part is to imagine this man, signing up for the run, dutifully dressing and otherwise preparing and then exerting himself out there that day, then crossing the finish line to see his friends or family. A presumably normal member of society who secretly assaults an innocent stranger.

That's how imagine the guy who harrassed me, too. An overall decent person who took advantage of anonymity to do something really cruel.

I'm glad to hear you're consistent about protecting yourself if you train alone.

Anonymous said...

The guy is an ass hat. Sorry this happened to you.

Kit Kat said...

Ugh, that sucks. Nothing to ruin a workout like feeling violated. Sorry that happened...by sharing you have reminded us that we need to be aware when training alone. Thank you.

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